Contrary to the popular myth, the vagina is not an infinitely complex, mysterious part of the body that is almost impossible to enjoy. But since women’s health and sexuality-and that of the assigned female at birth-is criminally undergoing, this is still something that many believe. There is just not much Science -supported information out there about female orgasms or pleasure in general.
Sex teaching in the United States is also a messSo it’s no surprise that how we even talk about our bodies is off. For example, when some people refer to the “vagina” (the inner canal connecting vulva to the cervix and uterus, or in other words where most people put sex toys, fingers or penises during sex), what they actually mean is “vulva”, what Planned Parenthood defines as the “outer” part of the genitalsIncluding clitoris, labia, vaginal opening and the opening for the urethra.
But knowing how to adequately get yourself is as important (and for some, as difficult to capture) as knowing the basics of your anatomy. Because Only a quarter of women can orgasm through vaginal penetration aloneone of the best ways to level out sex and Self -glorious is to get acquainted with the erogenous zones, or the many (sometimes surprising) parts of the body that can help maximize pleasure. Given that the majority of people need varied stimulation to gain access to orgasm – and of course if you have one, a lot of attention to the clitoris – There is never a bad time to learn more about the erogenous zones.
Vulva’s erogenous zones, explained
G-site
Outside the clitoris, G-site Spot is perhaps the most familiar erogenous zone because it is referred to a lot in the media (and there has been lots of hard debate about whether it is even there or not). This place – which is not really a specific “place” at all, as opposed to its name – is inside the vagina, about a few inches on the inside, closest to your stomach button.
Although it has sometimes been portrayed as an orgasm button that you can press that will cause a woman to climate on request, G-Spot is more a general area in the vagina that can contribute to vaginal orgasm when stimulated.
The best way to find the G-point is to explore the area with your fingers and feel for a spongy structure. (Some describe it as running their fingers over the surface of a walnut.) The best way to stimulate the G-spot is to use a “come hit” movement with one or two fingers. If you are awakened, the area will probably swell a bit at your touch.
Once you have found the g-site, it is best to use fingers or a curved sex toy. Experts recommend that you are looking for something like Smile Makers The Tennis ProWho has a bull, angled head that is perfect for accessing the G-site. When it comes to the best sex positions to stimulate G-Spot, doggy or missionary both can be good.
One -flight
When you find your G-spot, It’s time to introduce the A-place -Slag as G-Spot’s Erogenous Cousin. Formally known as the anterior ancient Erogenic zone, A-Spot is a pleasant patch of sensitive tissue located at the inner ends of the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder.
The best way to find the A-place is to first find the G-place, then move up an inch or two and apply some pressure. You probably won’t feel something textically different about this areaSo pay attention to all the feelings of increased pleasure or sensitivity.
You can also pay attention to how wet you feel, then a study From the 1990s found that stimulation of the A-site had a positive effect on vaginal lubrication. It noted that after 10 to 15 minutes of stimulation, “about two -thirds of women presented with chronic complaints about dryness and pain or discomfort during intercourse noted a significant positive physiological response,” while another 15 percent responded with orgasm and “abundant” amount of lubrication. So in principle, the A-place can help you become really wet-and can even help you access vaginal orgasm.
Use a Sex toy or vibrator It is long enough to reach the A-place, although a sex toy for the G-site also works well here as well. When it comes to positions, Doggy is a good alternative, as is all positions that enable deep access to the vagina.
U-place
The U-place stands for “urethra” and is located on the vulva as an external part of the genitals. Urethra is where you urinate from, and in general it is a super -sensitive area that responds to external stimulation – although nothing should be inserted into the urethra.
Sensitivity is the name of the game with U-Spot, so experiment with a mild touch, light pressure, vintage, a small vibrator on a low environment, or Even oral stimulation here. Try missionary or your favorite oral sex For this erogenous zone. It is important to just touch on any part of the genitals with clean, washed hands or toys, but especially U-Spot; Other, You can find yourself with one uti.
Other erogenous zones
The vulva and genitals more generally – are not the only areas of the body that deserve a lot of attention. Most people have a variety of erogenous zones, and discovering them is a big part of the fun. If you are interested in finding out which nonger areas put you on you, practice some patience and spend time with the rest of the body before Jumps right to your vulva or vagina.
Massaging, kissing, licking, playing with different prints and tickle can all help you find out what gives sexual pleasure. For many people, the neck, nipples, low back and inner thighs are all deeply comfortable areas.
You may also consider the anus (or Butt generally plays), although it does not always mean Penetrative anal sex. Spanking, kissing, massaging or exploring Sensation and temperature game (Like using a warming lotion, a ticky feather or an ice cube on the thighs and ass) are all amazing ways to feel sexy and introduce new feelings and experiences during sex.
If you still want deep inner sex, Cervical game (Sometimes called C-Spot or O-Spot) involves touching the cervix with your fingers, penis or a toy.
Just remember that not all these proposed areas will work for you or your lover and that is ok. Erogenous zones are there for exploration and discovery – and with a little patience you will find out exactly what lights you.
– Further reporting by Nicole Yi
Nicole Yi is the previously associated editor at PS.
Sara Youngblood Gregory was a contributing staff writer for PS Wellness. She covers sex, kink, disability, pleasure and wellness. Her work has been presented in Vice, Huffpost, Bustle, Dame, The Rumpus, Jezebel and many others.
